I used to be the shyest person ever and everything embarrassed me. Growing up, I admittedly missed out on a lot because of fear of looking silly, or dumb or of being judged. Even though I always wanted to break out of my shell and not worry so much about what others thought about me, this carried on all the way through high school. I was always the sweet, quiet (in other words, “boring”) girl. Sure my friends would never say that I was boring, but that’s definitely what I thought about myself. I couldn’t wait to go to college and start all over and be a different “Rosa,” one that was not afraid to be herself!
To a certain degree I still have a bit of that shyness but I constantly push myself to let go of whatever fear I’m feeling and embrace every chance I have at trying new things, meeting new people, and just having fun. While it’s a lot easier for me now, it still doesn’t come naturally to me. I’m always amazed at people who can spark conversations with complete strangers after standing next to them for just a minute or those who have no problem jumping in mid-conversations with a large group of people. While I might never be there, that’s okay. I have learned to be more confident and have fun and that is enough for me. There is nothing wrong with being shy as long as it doesn’t stop you from living the life you want to live.
If you are struggling with shyness, here are some of my tips for overcoming it.
- Leave your comfort zone. I haven’t moved many times in my life, but the times I have are the life events in which I have grown the most. Leaving a place where I know a lot of people and putting myself in the situation in which I need to make new friends is really exciting for me because I kind of get to reinvent myself. My last move was to Reno and while I definitely missed my family and friends back in Texas, the move provided me with the opportunity to meet people with different interest and experience new things that I otherwise would never have.
- Act confidently. Sometimes you need to trick yourself into it, but I think it really does work! Start by doing things that you would typically be timid about. I love to travel and often do so by myself. I wasn’t always so confident about it but when I started traveling solo I acted like if it was a normal thing for me as much as possible and now it really is.
- Make an effort to start a conversation with strangers. This is by far the hardest thing for me to do, but I force myself to do so. Now I’m even comfortable enough to go to networking events by myself and always leave having at least one good conversation!
- Just “Let Go!” Yes, it can be scary to put yourself out there but I promise that if you just let go, the ride will be worth it. Don’t be afraid to try new things. 🙂
What is something you have overcome and how? Would love to hear your stories!